I was talking to a friend about the scenario from yesterday. The friend and I agreed that the chick who called the woman was about some silly mess and that she was dead damn wrong for calling the woman up. I was like...yeah...but I probably would have known something was up when I looked down and saw her number. If they see each other sporadically and she's calling out the blue like that...yeah...her call would have gone straight to voicemail.
We then got into the whole thing where the chick had the audacity to call the former stay at home mom with some...why didn't you tell me and that sent our conversation in another direction.
We discussed how we pick and choose who we share information with often because well...everybody who wants to APPEAR to wish you well...really doesn't and you have to be careful.
I remember sharing some good news with a family member once that ended up depressing them because they made my good news out to be a reflection on them. That bothered me and I stopped sharing. The family member read something on the blog once and got bent outta shape because I hadn't called to share with them directly and I lied and said I'd been really busy...blame my head...not my heart.
That was a long time ago. That family member has since figured out that they do that often and shared their journey with me. I was like...yeah...don't do that. It's dumb.
Cuz I'm evil.
I'm usually the only person that a family, framily, or friend will confide in regarding bad news or just difficult issues because they know I know a lot of people and am good at thinking outside of the box. I may be able to introduce them to someone who can help.
When I think about it...I'm the same way. When I have something difficult going on I generally have the same people in my resource box and reach out to them. Some people because they are lovely and offer up that good energy I need at the moment...some people because they might can help solve the problem. I don't share with everyone because well...everyone can't help and honestly...when you're dealing with someone you want to talk to people who can HELP...anyone else is just a voyeur.
Are YOU selective as well? Are there times when you don't even share with your closest family members because well...you don't want them to worry and they wouldn't be able to help anyway so you tell them once the issue has been resolved?
