I'm working on something about "Soft Kids" in response to things I've seen and heard for a minute now especially here on the blog.
I don't know many teenagers who are together you know? Like...if they had to strike out and do some things on their own...they'd be azzed out because it seems their critical thinking skills just aren't all that great it seems. You know...like the stuff that is important to them doesn't help them develop these skills at all and well...they seem throwed the hell off more and more.
I've been around kids who can't even remember where the vehicle was parked that the just got out of 10 minutes ago. Like...they don't even remember what the vehicle looks like even if they've been in said vehicle a gamillion times before. How do you not notice what kinda car you ride in?
And the bullying. Yes...it's a big f'ing deal in lots of instances but kids can't seem to even be able to figure out how to flip the script. I said something to a friend recently about an instance where a girl was deciding that a random day was "IGNORE A CLASSMATE DAY" and she'd just pick someone and all of the kids would ignore that kid all day. My friend immediately said...the kids need to find out something about her life that would embarrass the shit outta her and tell the other kids. I mean sure...it's not an ideal solution but would it have worked? Probably. Did the kids think of this? No. Just no counter action AT.ALL. and let the chick rule the classroom being evil.
I know I get annoyed with E and he's a pretty smart kid. LIke...if I tell him to do something I have to tell him all of the steps to do it. I can't just say, E...take the garbage out. I have to say, E...take the garbage bag out of the can and tie it up, look under the sink and get another garbage bag and put it in making sure you tuck the top around the top of the can, close the lid, take the bag out to the outside garbage can on side of the house and put it in the can and then put the top back on it.
If I don't say it SPECIFICALLY like that...some bullshit is gonna go down that will make me question his sanity.
Having this conversation with my friends uncovered a whole gamut of things they are disappointed in with teenagers of today being soft. One friend feels like her friend isn't a fighter and she blames herself. She says that every problem he's ever had she's been able to throw money at it because she wanted to be a good parent and give her child the tools to succeed. If he was having trouble in class she hired him a private tutor or put him in an after school tutoring program for additional help. She says he's okay with just doing okay when she's competitive as hell and want him to be as well.
One friend shared the differences between her and her brother. How she has IT but her brother doesn't even though they were raised by the same mother.
And it goes on and on.
What, in your opinion, makes some kids SOFT and unable to figure ish out? How can the same kids be raised in the same environment yet one be SOFT and the other not? How can a kid who has a parent who has always excelled and whose parent has always focused on their CHILD excelling...end up being SOFT?
What do you think of the SOFT kids?
