Every now and then I have a marathon conversation with one of my good friends. We catch up what's going on with the other discuss all sorts of stuff.
The conversations can last more than an hour cuz really...we try and pack it all in.
A couple of years ago she dropped the bomb that this woman, who we always knew of as EXTREMELY smart, was dating a married man. It wasn't normal married mind you...it was a full separation. Dude had moved out, got a new place, was openly dating, etc.
They started dating and there was no hiding it. I mean...the wife was dating too.
They had children together and were trying to do as right by their kids as possible given the separation. Financially, for whatever reason, it just wasn't possible for them to get the divorce. There were children's birthday parties, Christmas, everything, with spouses and significant others around.
No biggie right?
Well, apparently the husband started going back to church regularly and something changed for him. Before you knew it...he was back sniffing around his wife. No one knows exactly how it went except for he and his wife but before long, the significant others were faded to black and dude moved back home where he belonged and now...he, his wife and children are all up in church telling their testimony of how they survived the fire. No...seriously...they are being applauded for working it out. THE DEVIL IS A LIAR! They are, once again, a solid, whole family.
Everyone is happy right?
This is how it was meant to be.
Let no man put asunder or something like that that.
Or woman.
So...here's the question...
Do you have any sympathy for the ex-girlfriend? She's a good person. She was dating a SEPARATED man. For all intents and purposes...dude was done with his wife except for being actually DONE. She feels used and is VERY angry with, not only the husband...but the wife as well. Should she? Should they be lauded as this amazing couple who went through the fire and survived or...were they probably icky people to begin with?
Is she REALLY the scarlet letter other woman in this circumstance? Or...scarlet letter belongs to the currently happily married couple?
Do YOU know anyone this happened to?
