Rantings of a Creole Princess

Scenario from real life...

A friend invites you and another friend out.

Yall arrive at the meeting place and take a seat near a large group of people who are cool.

You text your friend to let them know you're there and they say they are on their way.

An hour later, they arrive and come sit with you because you've saved them a seat (seats are rare at this venue).

Everyone orders a drink and appetizers.

Yall are dying laughing and having a good time.

Your friend sits with you and talks for all of 15 minutes.

Then they bail.

You see them standing across the room with other friends kicking it.

They STAY over there.

You good?

 

I think I NEED this fit however!

Yall KNOW this looks like 100% me!  Please don't tell me not to buy it.  PLEASE!

New Dress

I DON'T NEED A NEW DRESS I DON'T NEED A NEW DRESS I DON'T NEED A NEW DRESS I DON'T NEED A NEW DRESS  I DON'T NEED A NEW DRESS I DON'T NEED A NEW DRESS I DON'T NEED A NEW DRESS I DON'T NEED A NEW DRESS.

When's the last time YOU bought a new dress?

Scenario from real life...

You're invited to a dinner party in honor of the host's best friend and new love.

You attend.

As you're having cocktails, you notice the new couple is very hand-sy with each other.  Well...the new love is very hand-sy with the host's best friend.

Like...new love is rubbing all over the host's best friend and everyone is standing/sitting around talking.

Dinner is served and hands are on their own forks, knives and glasses.

Dessert is served in a much less formal setup and the hand-sy new love pulls a seat over to where the host's best friend is and sits right at their leg and begins the constant touching, rubbing thing again.

Hands rubbing thighs, stomach, arm, up to their face, in their hair, etc. all the while carrying on a full conversation with everyone.

The hostess isn't saying anything but you're weirded out so you make your exit shortly after dessert.

You're asked later, by the host, what you thought of the evening.  What do you say?

Would what you say differ if the couple was gay?

 

From My Inbox: Gay Pride Parade

Hey,

I remember some time ago you posted on the blog...you said that (my memory ain't that good so this is not an exact quote) if a gay friend asked you to you'd be willing to march for gay rights...this was a while ago... At the time I thought to myself that I wouldn't...thinking that folk might think I was gay... Funny... A family member this/close "came out" to me... I loved them to death before they came out and love them more that they are living their lives the way they want too... It was in that moment when I thought... I would march to the ends of the world to support their right/desire to live/love whoever they want...

___________________________________________________________________________________________

 

My response:

And that's really all it takes.  If we interject love into anything we believe we are against, even as it has nothing to do with us...we will lead with the decision love brought us to.  This is why empathy and love for fellow man is important.  Because only then will you truly understand how life is supposed to work.

I am proud of you.  It takes many families GENERATIONS of lifetimes to figure this one out.  :)

SIP:  If more people figured this one out...there would be fewer Eddie Longs.

 

Question...

What's the nicest thing anyone has ever done for you?

Have YOU been watching?

Tyler Perry shows on OWN come under high-profile scrutiny

What say YOU about the shows?

 

Lil Wayne Walks on OUR Flag

 

What say YOU?

 

SIP:  Find him and bring him to me.

Pat Robertson: Disobedient wives must be spanked.

Pat Robertson: Disobedient Wives ‘Must Be Spanked’

Ladies...when was your last spanking for being disobedient?

 

 

SIP:  The Christian Broadcast Network just keeps winning huh?  LOL!

 

Worth a Fight?

Fighting Unwanted Cat Calls, One Poster At A Time

Or are you of the mind that you should only worry about cat calls when they STOP?

What are YOUR thoughts regarding cat calls?

Wages Paid by Debit Card?

McD's worker sues: Don't pay by debit card

Comment from Erica B. on FB:

My daughter's job has this option. But she has a bank account and uses direct deposit. Sadly, a LOT of people in low wage positions don't and it's either that debit card or going to the check cashing place. And companies and financial institutions are taking advantage with those ridiculous fees. Society doesn't give a shit about the poor and consistently make life harder. If this doesn't make you want to get your life together...

I couldn't agree with her more.  Society doesn't give a rat's azz about the poor and they are the main target when it comes to making money.  

What say YOU?  Do YOU know anyone who gets paid with a debit card?  Do they have fees attached to using the card?  Were you aware that companies even DID this?  Now that you know...will you warn young people about this?

Unlocking The Truth - Malcolm Brickhouse & Jarad Dawkins

The Avant Garde Diaries

Raphael Saadiq & D'Angelo: "You Should Be Here"

I'm on my way to the airport to pick up my husband who has been gone since Thursday golfing with his father for Father's Day.

It should come as no surprise that I've missed him like crazy and always find myself appreciating him in his absence even more than normal.  It's like...I don't even realize how much I require him to be close enough to know I'll see him at the end of the day until one of us is traveling.

My anticipation at seeing his face has me grinning from ear-to-ear already.  I combed my hair and put on something cute even though it's Monday, my off day, and I'm not going anywhere nor am I even getting out of the car other than to move to the passenger seat.  I'm not putting on lipgloss because when I kiss him...I don't want to leave any on him because I know he hates that.  LOL!

There is something about this level of security and cherishing I wish everyone knew and I look forward to the day when more of the people I love have found someone to love as much as I love him and he loves me.  I have many family, framily and friends blessed with this same type of love and I'm so happy that, in my world, it's not an anomaly to see good men BEING good men.  Good sons, good brothers, good husbands, good fathers, good friends, good employers and employees.

So many in my life have lead by example and I'm so blessed my expectations matched up with my reality.

I wish you love and I hope those of you who have it recognize your blessing and focus on reciprocating and creating a happy, loving home.  Now bye...I'm going get my BOOSCHNICKA CUZ I MISSED HIM SO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Know what else is vegetarian?

A long time ago I had a party at my home.  Yall know how I get down...I cook and set it out big time when I give a party.  I remember someone new kept walking around asking me if this, that or the other was vegetarian even though it was obvious there were many dishes which didn't have meat or broth in it.  

While I was entertaining guests.

After about three times I gave her a look she obviously recognized because she stopped in mid-sentence.  SIP was right at the surface thinking:

SIP:  Know what else is vegetarian?  The door.

Wisely...she kept it moving, stopped following me and enjoyed what she could safely enjoy.

I ended up broiling a couple of vegetarian burgers for her to go with the pasta salad, veggies, grilled portobella mushroom caps and grilled shrimp kabobs.

o_0

Whenever I go to a party, I always bring fruit, bars, etc. that I could snack on in a corner if need be in the event nothing is available without gluten.  I don't bother the hostess even though, most of them know my issues and generally lead off telling me exactly what is safe for me to eat.  The last time I was in Houston, Weezy and CeCe had a full gluten-free barbecue and that touched my evil heart.  LOL!  Had he called me one mo' gin, however, and asked me if something was gluten-free or not while at the grocery store...I was gonna cuss him.  But yeah...I was touched they were looking out for their sister.  

I was at TravelDiva's son's graduation party and she had the event catered.  There were so many gluten-free options like prime rib, corn, green beans, etc.  the kid got seconds.  LOL!  I was sooooooooooooo happy.  I had plenty of finger foods in my bag just in case mind you...but I was happy I could eat some of that delicious looking beef!

Those of you with food issues...do you make sure you have options in your bag if you go somewhere knowing you'll only be there a couple of hours at most and you'll live if there isn't anything you can eat?

Arcadia Mobile Market - Things that make me HAPPY!!!!!!!!!

I had a meeting in DC last week at the Dean Wood Community Center & Library.  While in wait mode, I took a walk around the facility.  To say I was impressed with it is the least I could say because the place truly blew me away.  

I kept asking questions because I couldn't believe it was free to the public with minimal fees for use of services like the fitness center and the pool.  There was a full blown senior center with a VERY active senior population, meeting rooms, quiet rooms, computer room, etc.

And it was all free.  

I walked outside and walked around a bit stopping in my tracks when I saw this:

Inside Voice

How did you teach YOUR kids about their inside voice?  When we were kids and we were too loud at home my mother would simply put us out.  If she was being generous enough to let us be inside with the air, you hated being sent outside in the Louisiana heat so you learned QUICKLY what was exceptable INSIDE and OUTSIDE.

oneblackman Has Issues!

This weekend we were discussing dating.  One scenario in particular was about a 40something woman dating a 26 year old young man.  My stance was hey...if he made her happy, they both grown.  Fug the police.  LOL!

oneblackman had a different take on it.

oneblackman:  Monnie...in the jungle, what's worse than a cougar?

Me:  Huh?

oneblackman:  You know...like the baddest cat in the jungle.

Me:  *THINKING*  Hmmm...

oneblackman:  I got it!  A saber-tooth tiger!  That's what she is.  A saber-tooth tiger!  Cuz she's mighty long in the tooth!

Me:  *sigh*

Regarding Nigella Lawson being choked out...

If you are somewhere and a woman is being choked out by a man, even if it's a fancy, smancy restaurant, and you choose to take pics and not call the police...you're an azz of EPIC PROPORTIONS.

Like...monumental, donkey's azz swollen from a poisonous bees azz.

 

So...what WOULD you walk out on?

Friday we discussed a dating scenario and many people said they wouldn't have left after the date was, in my opinion, disrespectful.  I disagreed because well...I have bad nerves and have a low-low tolerance for ridiculous.  My stance on dating, when I dated was that I would enjoy myself more at peace on my sofa with my remote rather than dealing with silly ish.

And I meant that.

Ben & Jerry's trying to start some ish?????

From Ben & Jerry's Facebook fanpage.

It struck me as odd that those were the two flavors given this company's penchant for having very unique flavor combinations.  I honestly don't think I've ever had a scoop of Ben & Jerry's that was a single, plain flavor.

What do YOU think about this?  Do you find their choices interesting?  Do you think somebody...somewhere...was trying to be cheeky as hell?

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

To all the MEN who are fathers and father figures...I salute you!  HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

Convo at 13700

E and K are talking.  Well...K is talking.  E is listening but doesn't look like he's listening.

K:  You aren't listening to me are you?

E:  Of course I'm listening.  Congratulations on the baby.  First root beer is on me.

K:  *Face.Palm*

Me:  BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

SIP:  BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Me:  BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

SIP:  BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Then E pretty much repeats every thing K said prior to the snark.

Whew...that was priceless!

Man Stuff

We all have stuff we need with us when we're out and about.  Men are no different.  When The Robinator and I are somewhere, he generally asks me to carry whatever he needs in my purse.  If it's just out to dinner or something...it's probably only his keys, his sunglass case and an extra pair of contact lenses just in case.  (Note...I just keep an extra pair of his contacts in my bags always anyway.)

If we're out in the world somewhere, it could be a bit more.  Sunscreen, Kindle, a towel (Why do men always need a towel?), a newspaper or magazine, a couple of bars/fruit, bottle of water, etc.  So yeah...it can get heavy.

So I bought a small black backpack that he can carry too.

If the backpack looked like a purse in any way...dude would have a spasm.  Seriously.  

What about YOUR guy?  Does he have something to carry his own stuff in?  What is it?  Do you generally just carry his stuff in your purse too?  Does it ever annoy you?

HotNESS or HotMESS? (SM)

SIP:  Is he carrying a murse?

Overreaction?

Someone I love has been dating online.  She has run into some good guys who didn't fit her idea of a mate and she's run into some bad guys who didn't fit her idea of a mate.

One guy in particular was all good on paper and had excellent communication skills.  He was smart and funny.  She agreed to meet him for coffee.

They were down South and it was a hot day so she wore a maxi dress.  Loose and flowing.  Pretty colors.  She paired her sundress with strappy sandals and had a cardigan in her bag in case she got cold inside.  

She walked in the designated meeting place (a coffee house) and he was already there.  

She went over and they met face-to-face and she gave him a quick hug.  One you'd give a stranger.

She then walked up to the counter to order her drink.  When she got in line, she saw that he was watching her with a soft smile on his face.

She walked back to their table and sat down.  She smiled, he smiled.  They discussed how they'd had no trouble getting to the coffee house and that he never really spent that much time in the area.  Small talk.  Chit chat.  

He then asked her if he looked like his picture and she said yes.  They laughed at how that can go dangerously wrong sometimes and she asked the same.  He agreed she looked like her picture and then he said, "You look like you REALLY enjoy sans ropas."

The smile dropped from her face and, being who she is, she snapped and said, "That's about the rudest, most disrespectful thing you could say to a woman you just met."

Then she rolled the hell out MAD.AS.FUG!

She called me and told me about it and I couldn't close my mouth.  She was PISSED!  Dude was a professional and had all the makings of being someone worth dating but hell...that didn't materialize AT.ALL.

He sent her a text a couple of days later asking if she realized she'd overreacted yet.  She didn't respond, of course, and blocked his number.

Do YOU think she overreacted?  Do you think there are SOME guys who think that if a woman is dating online then she's desperate and that's why they go there?  Do you think this same dude would be different with a woman he met in a traditional way?

What has been YOUR online dating experience?  Do you have a favorable view of it?

 

Cheerios Commercial Spoof

From My Inbox:

Hi Monica,

Can I get you and the tribe’s help once again?  Last year when I turned 40, I made noise.  Honey, I ran a 5k and 10k race (first runs ever), swam with dolphins, hosted quite a few road trips and just wore my 30-something year old girlfriends out.  I was even running circles around my husband.  Last month, I turned 41 and I think someone pulled the plug on me.  I’m still looking forward to this new decade in my life, but the struggle with these hormonal and body changes just got real.   I find myself looking at every woman’s belly and muffin tops and comparing them to mine.  It’s like I blew up overnight.  I get scatterbrained and forgetful now, which scares the crap out of my husband because I write out the bills for the house and balance the books.  I was telling an older woman (who mentors me) about some books that I’m in search of to help me figure out what the heck is going on and what to do and she said, “Honey you don’t need no book, you need to talk to a WOMAN!” She shared some things but I still have more questions. 

I am open to anything… ANYthing you have to share about the 40’s.  What to start eating more of and less of, what to do more of and less of. Wisdom on friendships, marriage, hormones, depression, memory development… I don’t care what it is.  I’m all ears /eyes. 

Thanks for any help,

Nikki Mar – “still fabulous at 41”

What say YOU?

Happy Father's Day, Mom!

What do YOU think of single mothers and Father's Day?  Do YOU think they should be celebrated on Father's Day for being both a mother AND a father to their children?

Question...

Have you ever dated or had sans ropas with someone a friend or family member is CURRENTLY dating? (I heard this question on NPR this morning believe it or not.  LOL!)

I LOVE LOVE!

Convo at 13700

I'm making smoothies and E rounds the corner as I'm putting in the spinach.

E:  YOU PUT SPINACH IN THE SMOOTHIES?????????????

Me:  (Crap...he caught me.)  Yes.

E:  IN SMOOTHIES YOU GIVE TO ME??????????????

Me:  Yes.

E:  I CAN'T TRUST YOU OR MY MOM ANYMORE!

Me:  You caught your mom putting spinach in your smoothies too?

E:  No.  But I recently found out she's been putting mayonnaise in my tuna for years now and I don't eat mayonnaise!

Me:  Dude...if she's been doing it for years...you eat mayonnaise.

E:  Everything I believe in is being systematically destroyed.

Me:  It's called growing up dude.  It sucks.  Sorry.  Here's your smoothie.

 

Laid Off

Has anyone been laid off recently?  

What sites did you use to look for employment?

Do you know of any good headhunters?

How long did it take you to find employment?

Is your new job better?

Any tips?

o_0

I Cry

When's the last time you had a good cry?

What say YOU?

How Exercise And Other Activities Beat Back Dementia

Of the people in your family who have or who currently suffer from dementia...were they active?  Does this make you want to get up and do something if you're not active?

Scenario from real life...

An ULTRA-CONSERVATIVE EXTREMELY RELIGIOUS political family loses their matriarch.

While packing up her home after her funeral, her journals are discovered.

Her daughter and granddaughter are doing the packing.

Her grandaughter is given the journals, old letters etc.

Her granddaughter reads them and finds out that her grandmother was gay and had a long-term relationship with her best friend from college that they both carried on even after being married and having children.

If YOU were the granddaughter...what would YOU do with this information.  Would you tell anyone in the family?  Or would you take it to YOUR grave?

Yeah Baby!

What say YOU?

HotNESS or HotMESS? (SM): Corn on the Cob

When I make corn on the cob, I simply boil some water and drop the corn in for 5 minutes removing immediately.  I don't like anything on my corn as it tastes sooooooooooooo good to me as is.  Robby likes butter on his corn.

Recently I met someone who doesn't like corn on the cob and I couldn't think of a single person I knew who didn't like corn on the cob.

Instrastin huh?

The person then went on to share they didn't eat vegetables period and well...I moved on after that   cuz seriously...THAT'S JUST CRAZY!  HOW IN THE HELL YOU DON'T EAT VEGGIES NUTCASE??????

Moving on...

Do YOU like corn on the cob?  Do you put anything on it?  If so...what?  

Do  you know anyone who doesn't eat veggies?

HotNESS or HotMESS? (SM) - Holy Ghost Enforcers: Men's Ministry THE MOVIE

What say you? Funny?

Could YOU do this?

We're paying off our mortgage in less than 5 years

Military Sexual Harassment

Would you have concerns about sexual harassment and rape if your daughter came to you and shared she was going to go into the military right out of high school?

Have you been following the cases?

When sharing goes wrong...

I went to go see the independent film, "Frances Ha" the other day at Bethesda Row's theater.  The theater has been remodeled and it's all kinds of top notch fanciness.  This place could seriously become a straight up club with movies now.  There is a full bar, real food, seating areas, etc. in the lobby and the seats in the theaters are luxurious leather, wide and comfy as all get out.

Spending Time with My Dad

When I was a kid, hiking in the woods was something we did pretty regularly.  My father pretty much was at his most comfortable outside and he prided himself on knowing things about being in the woods that other people didn't know.  It was kinda his thing you know?  We'd be walking and listening and then he'd say something like, "Stay alert, we're near water."  Cuz he knew all the critters in the woods eventually hit up the water and well...it's their woods so they could be headed that way at any time.

Ms. Cicely Tyson wins a Tony!

Bookin' It!

I was looking for something light to read so I bought this book:  Ladies' Night

I'll let yall know if I enjoy it.

What light reads have YOU enjoyed lately?

o_0

Mustaches on Women

Would you think a man is shallow if he doesn't want to date a woman, even casually, because she has a slight mustache?

If he met a woman and she was great and he asked her would she mind regularly waxing...would he be wrong?

 

Scenario from real life...

Your S/O's mother does a lot for him yet she is very respectful of his space and time with you.

There have been times when she's stopped by to drop off stuff she's picked up for him and called when she was out front to see if you guys are busy so she doesn't interrupt you from spending time together.

She has a key to his place.

You're in the middle of sans ropas and his phone rings.

He sees it's her and answers.

He doesn't stop.

You good?