*WARNING FROM SIP* I USE THE WORDS GOOD HAIR IN THIS. DON'T ACT LIKE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT. YES...ALL HAIR IS GOOD HAIR, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH...BUT DON'T "ACK" LIKE YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT.
Saturday before last I got a good haircut. Blunt in the back and pretty much layered throughout. It was not something I did simply because I WANTED to...honestly...I HAD to.
I don't have "good hair" and never did. My hair is very thin and it responds well to straightening. Even though it's thin...there is a lot of it and the natural color was always nice and dark so it reflected light well making it really shiny. I never had problems with dry scalp or, honestly, any problems at all. It grew and flourished when I took care of it and when I didn't take care of it...it still grew but would be all dry and whatnot but still able to be made to look nice with coconut oil and a bit of S-Curl around the edges.
Today, I'm 43 years old and in a couple of months...I'll be 44. My hair has changed. DRASTICALLY. And not just on my head. All over my body.
I was having lunch with The Usual Suspects the day I got my haircut and we were all sharing beauty issues and tips the way friends do when they get together. I had them DYING laughing about this new hair growing out of my body because I don't know a dang thing about it. The hair growing out of my body currently is straight up cut with nuttin. It is growing as if my bloodline hasn't been mixed with all the bloodlines it's been mixed with in the gumbo that makes up me. The hair growing out of my body now is straight up original Motherland hair and I am NOT joking. I don't know what in the world to do with it and it's taking a toll on me. My hair is now super THICK and it's grows like crazy like there is a heat processing plant under my scalp pumping it out. It's so thick in the crown that relaxers do NOTHING to the hair there and I'm not even joking. My hair at the crown LAUGHS in the face of Affirm Sensitive Scalp relaxer. Crown hair is like...COME AGAIN PLAYA! BRING IT! YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!
I always look like I have helmet hair these days because the crown hair is so thick it just sits up and does whatever the hell it wants to do. So it's like I have a Florida Evans under relaxed hair. Seriously. It's like one of those bad weave jobs you see on people and you're like...why aren't they blending the two different hairs better?
Well...humph.
My hair now is damn near texturized cuz I haven't gotten it straight with a relaxer in over a year.
I have to isolate my crown and use a heavy moisturizer and oil on that section of my hair. The healthy hair practices I've always had? Like never using my flat iron higher than 300 degrees? HA! Good luck with that. Stretching relaxers? Yeah...right...if I want it to all break off sure.
The heat doesn't make it any better because the tight coils of my new growth seem to hug sweat to my scalp from my workouts so gone are the days of keeping it tied up until it dries. Now? I have to rinse it every two days or I will take a garden rake and scrape the skin off my scalp trying to find relief.
I can't wash, condition or use any other products on my hair without sectioning it off and doing anything with it has become too much. I now wonder if most women go through this and is it why they tend to keep their hair shorter and they grow older.
If I bun it too long? Damn near dredlocks it at the scalp.
The hair on my legs and under my arms isn't any better. I used to shave and never used things like Nair or Veet. Well, I started noticing little black dots all over my legs no matter what so it became obvious that the hair was growing out thicker there too and I had to start getting the hair out from UNDER the skin.
So yeah...I'm a Nair girl these days because I have no choice and I'm vain as hell. (Travel Diva 'nem say Veet is better so I'll try that once I run out of this bottle of Nair I currently have.)
I'm just venting, truth be told. I'm a bit frustrated currently because I was trying to airdry my hair and it's still wet at the crown and now I have to coat it with something thick and pull out the blow dryer. I've had to add an applicator nozzle to my bottle of oil so I can coat the new growth only because the oil on the rest of my hair makes it look like a limp, GREEZY mess.
No.
Just me? Any advice?
