Have you ever stepped in dog shit wearing sneakers? You have all of those grooves and whatnot to get the shit out of. You're hopping on one foot, trying to figure out if you've smeared crap anywhere and well...the whole situation is just a mess. You use a cleaning brush you're never going to be able to use again and some kinda something with a flat edge to scrape through the grooves to get all of the crap out of there and well...there are always STILL some bits of shit left it seems for a long, long time.
Now...what if you step in shit and then someone comes up behind you who stepped in some shit too? Do you have time to help them clean up the shit from their shoe or do you have your hands full getting your own shit out of the grooves?
On Saturday I was hanging out with a girlfriend who is going through some pretty heavy ish. Someone called them and dumped some of their ish on her. She got off the phone wondering what she was going to do to help and gave me a brief rundown.
Me: You need to worry about cleaning up the dog shit on your own shoe first before you can help someone clean the dog shit off their shoes. And...the dog shit just might be too much for you to be worried about on someone else's shoe cuz you know...cleaning dog shit off your shoe...can get pretty darn hectic to get it all off.
I'm all for helping and being of service but when you have your own major stuff going on...FOCUS. Let them folks clean up their own shit.