Rantings of a Creole Princess

Summer Camp for Women?

Would you do something like this? Campowerment

Cellulite

What do you know about cellulite?  

Can You Beat Cellulite?

Are you a feminist?

I had a 20 year old young lady ask me recently if I was a feminist and for the first time in my life, I hesitated before I answered yes.  

Later, I thought about why I hesitated and honestly...I think it's because so many people have changed the definition of the word feminism.  Then I thought to myself...well that's ridiculous and kept it moving.

I thought about this conversation with myself last night as, on a gander, I looked up the definition of the world feminism online and found one thing in common with all of the dictionary references online.  They were all different.  If the following definitions are still the case...then yes, I am:

So...I'm a feminist.  *THROWS CONFETTI*

During a casual conversation with my Godson, it came out that he felt both men and women should take out the trash, remove snow from vehicles, clear the sidewalks, and take out the trash.  I told him that he can believe whatever he wants to believe and he should think about it further on his way out the door to take out the trash.  I decided to revisit it later and told him that Unca Robby does those things because he doesn't want me to have to.

E:  Would you do it if he didn't want to do it?

Me:  He'd never not want to do it if the alternative is me doing it.

E:  But what if he couldn't?

Me:  Then I'd do it.  I'm perfectly capable of doing it, it's just not something I'd want to be responsible for.  Same as Unca Robby not wanting to be responsible for cooking dinner or grocery shopping or dealing with a lot of stuff he doesn't want to deal with so I deal with and vice versa.  Each of us have our own roles that, over time, we slid into naturally.

E:  My wife is going to take out the trash and do all of that stuff too.

Me:  If she doesn't have a problem doing those things...then she will.  But if she has a problem with it because she was raised in a home where her father and brother did those things...she probably won't so make sure you're not trying to hand down ultimatums because the only women who are going to deal with your ultimatums are women who don't feel worthy of having choices and well...a whole set of extra problems comes along with a woman who is unsure of herself.

He started walking off...

E:  Okay.

So...in your opinion...do you think the definition of feminism has changed from what you've always known it to be?  Can you be a feminist if you want equal rights across the board for women yet expect the man to take out the trash?

Am I a feminist?  Are you?

Deeply Devoted Friends

Sarah Jessica parker says that the friendship she and the girls had on "Sex and the City" is a thing of the past and that the culture of the past 10 years of reality shows have changed friendships with women.

Instrasti...

What do YOU think?

You Good?

"Men, I know you think your woman isn't the type who wants to be taken. But trust me, she is. Every girl wants to get her hair pulled once in a while. If your wife says "no," turn her around, and rip her clothes off. She wants to be dominated."

'Real Housewife' Melissa Gorga's New Book Advocates Marital Rape

 

Women's Rights

Do you think things are better for women NOW...or do you wish things could go back to the days when men were the primary breadwinners and women took care of the home as the norm?

How to Properly Put on Your Bra

 

How to properly put on a bra:

• Fasten your bra in front, and then twist it around so the clasp is in the back.
• Place your arms in the straps and adjust them so they rest on your shoulders and they're not all twisty or wonky.
• This is the most important part! Bend forward and pull your boobs (and side/under boob fat!) into the cups. Seriously, it's crazy how good it looks when you pull forward that side and under fat and your boobs presto changos into bigger boobs. Sorcery!
• Now, stand up. If you have muffin top, just push it back into the cup. Don't be afraid to manhandle your boobs and make sure they're all in there.

Here's an easy-to-follow video tutorial on putting on a bra — start at 3:01 to see her demonstrate the technique:

FROM: http://jezebel.com/buy-a-properly-sized-bra-and-put-it-on-correctly-dammi-499351462 Does anyone do it like this?

Woman Cave

If I had a woman cave, I'd want a beauty shop dryer chair tucked in a corner somewhere that was also a massage pedicure station with a flat surface I could flip up to do my nails on.

I'd also want an awesome movie viewing section and a super comfy reading corner filled with light.

And a state of the art music system.

And lots of book shelves.

And a writing desk facing a window with an Eames desk chair.

And a fireplace.

And a bathroom nearby.

And space enough for Pilates without having to move anything.

And room for all my nail polish on display.

And a Monnie-snack drawer.

And a heavy duty crafting table.  

And a sofa for my friends who come over.

And wine/wine glass storage.  

NO MAN/DOG FARTING ZONE!

What would YOU add or remove?

Tell the truth and shame the devil!

You ever go to put on a skirt, dress or shorts and realize you can't because you haven't shaved your legs?

 

 

SIP:  Adidas sweats it is!

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The Opt-Out Generation Wants Back In

I found this article long and annoying but couldn't put my finger on exactly why.  Then...I read the comments and they gave me LIFE!   LOL!

What say YOU?

Single Motherhood: The Chicken or the Egg?

I was talking to a friend the other day and she was sharing that she has a problem accepting help from people no matter who it is.  When someone offers her help with something...she automatically says, "That's okay, I can do it."  She realized that this has been a problem in the relationships she's had and that more than a couple of her exes have shared this frustration with her.

But she says she can't help herself.

The other day she was being really reflective and wondered if it was because she's a single mother.  She said when her child was younger, it was just easier to do everything herself instead of giving someone the opportunity to disappoint her when it came to doing things for her child.  She wondered if it became so second nature to her to get it done herself...that it became second nature in every aspect of her life.  

Single mothers...do you have the same stance on life?  Do you think you have a problem with accepting help from anyone because you learned you can only count on yourself?  Do you think it's easier to do what you need done YOURSELF?  Do you have a problem letting others in because of this?

Dear Women:

What do you love about being a woman?

Dear Women:

Do you pay attention to and police what your S/O eats or do you let him eat whatever he wants to eat and not say a word?

Blue Nail Polish?

Essie Bikini so Teeny' 800

Four of my friends had on blue nail polish Saturday and now I soooooooooooooooooo want some!  LOL!  Have you rocked blue yet?  How about green?  I tend to stick to colors which kinda go with my skin color so using primary colors (other than red) is not my norm.  

What say you?  What colors do you normally reach for?  Especially as a professional woman in a professional environment.

Either / Or: Nair or Veet?

And why?

Conversations about "Being Mary Jane"

I have had a lot of conversations about "Being Mary Jane" since it aired.  Well...not about the actual movie per se (even though that's how the conversations started) but about how women saw themselves in the situations Mary Jane presented.

ONe of the main conversations was about the married woman part.  I was having lunch with two married women and one single woman.  The movie came up and the inevitable question was raised.  

"What would you do if a woman told you she was sleeping with your husband and you knew she was telling the truth?"

One married woman slapped the table and crossed her leg while saying, "I ain't never leaving that man!"  And I blinked. We all looked at her like...WHOA and the questions started pouring out:

Spa Getaway

If you could go on a spa getaway trip...where would you go?  Would you go with anyone?  If so...who?

Who is Senator Wendy Davis?

Quite frankly...she's a BAD.AZZ.

She's the woman who wore these:

...and talked for almost 13 hours straight starting at 11:18 am yesterday to derail a vote in the GOP-dominated Senate.  She had to keep speaking on the bill until midnight, which was the deadline for the end of the special session.  She lectured, read testimony from women, doctors etc.  At one point, during one story...Senator Davis almost cried.

But she kept going.

There are specific, tedious and archaic rules to filibustering and Ms. Davis never even SKIRTED on the side of wrong during the first three hours of her REMARKABLE and just flipping AWESOME stand for women.  She is the perfect antithesis to Rick Perry and I damn sure hope she runs for Governor of Texas as soon as possible.  TURN TEXAS BLUE!!!!!!!!

Ms. Davis became a single mother at the age of 19.  She's the first person in her family to graduate from college.  Upon graduation from Texas Christian University, she went to Harvard Law School and put in her time clerking, being a business owner and then got involved in local politics.  Senator Davis is 50 years old.

She has championed bills which mean something, in my opinion.  Everything from payday loans to protecting sexual assault victims.  The bill she was attempting to derail was this one: Texas Anti-Abortion Bill - SB5

The Republicans succeeded in pausing her filibuster since she had three strikes.  One of the strikes she received was for receiving assistance in putting on a back brace while speaking:

Was Ms. Davis successful in stopping the bill from becoming law?  AB-SO-FLIPPING-LUTELY.  Why?  Because the vote was recorded at 12:03 am AFTER THE DEADLINE.

BOSS. 

THE BILL IS DEAD.

FOR.NOW.

"Today was democracy in action,” Davis said. “You all are the voices we were speaking for from the floor.”

Senator Davis is the reason I didn't go to bed last night until midnight thirty knowing I had a 6:15 am flight this morning and would have to get up at 3:30 am.  Senator Davis...I thank you for being a WOMAN WHO ROARS and for the exaggeration of the already heavy bags under my eyes this morning.  #TomFordSunglassEmergency

Did you watch?  It was sooooooooooooooooooo awesome!  It was like...AMAZING!  The energy, her steadfastness...yeah...all of that.  DRAMA!

Question for the Tribe

With apologies to the menfolk, but does anyone else have pain in their thighs and hips during Midol week? I mean like bent over shuffling like an old woman pain? I've never had this before and it's insane.

Angelina's Boobies

What do YOU think about Angelina cutting off her boobies to prevent possible cancer in her future?  If you had the money for the genetic testing and your results were the same...would YOU have cut off YOUR boobies?

My Medical Choice

Weight Training for Women

When you hit 40, you're encouraged to make sure you are doing weight training with your work out schedule because the older we get, the more muscle strength we lose for one.

Do YOU do weight train as well?  In YOUR opinion...would you go as far as these ladies did?

How do YOU measure success?

A friend posted an article about how women define success and I read it pondering the point the author was making.

How Women Define Success

As I was reading it I was thinking about how I measure and define personal success and I have to say that I consider being successful being able to do whatever you WANT to do versus doing what you NEED to do in order to have a comfortable life.  Like...if you enjoy your job...no matter how much it pays, and you're comfortable...you're successful.  In MY opinion.

What about YOU?  How do YOU measure success?

 

Question...

Do you consider yourself a feminist?

Beyoncé’s reluctant feminism

 

Those of you with boobs...

...keep moving right on past this post.  LOL!

Those of you who don't have boobies like me...this is the best t-shirt bra I've ever owned and now I own 5 of them!  GO ME!  Shimera Seamless Bra

What say YOU?

"Being a female boss is a classic catch-22. In order for women to succeed, they
have to be different, extraordinary, and not too emotional. But in order for
them to be respected by their female employees, it seems these women also need
to be relatable, likable, and "just like everyone else." When they're not,
there's major backlash. Just look at Marisa Mayer, who has been widely
criticized for her decision to ban telecommuting, a decision she made in order
to benefit the company -- in other words, in order to do the job she was hired
to do."

From this article: 
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/peggy-drexler/women-might-not-be-the-be_b_2917229.\
html

What say YOU?

Sonia Kashuk Completely Organized

Sonia Kashuk® Completely Organized

I bought one of these a while ago from Target and it's pretty darn awesome.  All of the essential things you keep in your purse fit in it and when you want to change bags you just pull it out and plop it into another bag.  I'd seen something like this before and considered buying it but couldn't wrap my brain around the price so finding this one for $14.99 made me feel all awesome-bargain-shoppery.  GO ME!

Shelly Bean liked it so much she got one too!  It has all kinds of compartments inside and it's really kept my bag pretty organized.  ESPECIALLY when traveling.

Do you have anything like this?

And so it begins...Night Sweats

 

 

I woke up last night sweating.  It's been happening before Midol Week and after ovulation for a few months now and, of course, I ask Mr. Google about it whenever it happens.

It's not a drenching sweat and I haven't had to get up and change or anything but yes...it's there, I'm hot and I kick the covers off and then I'm immediatly freezing.

I'm sure, at age 43, it's time for my body to start acting out and I have my annual appointment coming up so I'll make sure I ask all the appropriate questions.

Anybody else dealt with this yet?  Any advice?  What questions do I need to ask?  Other than the night sweats...I don't have any other symptoms but hey...night sweats are enough right?  I'm thinking so.

What vitamins should I buy? - Monnie & Robby...Healthy

Robby (Age 43, healthy, training for marathon, weight training): GNC MEGA MEN SPORT

Monnie (Age 43, healthy, active): GNC Womens Ultra Mega Active

Monnie AND Robby (Age 43...non-milk drinkers): GNC Wellbeing® Be Balanced - Dulce De Leche

We take two vitamins per day.  One with breakfast, one with lunch.  We chew one calcium chew per day.  

Women, Politics and OUR Bodies!

I'd like to ask a few questions if you don't mind about politics and our bodies.

1.  How do you feel knowing that only 16% of Congress is made up by women?

2.  Do you think if that number were higher then there were be fewer "laws" regarding what can/cannot, should/should not happen with our bodies?

3.  Regardless if you're pro-life or pro-choice...do you think it's something Congress should get to control?

4.  How did you feel learning that Todd Akin sits on the House of Science Committee and yet spit out that "legitimate rape" crap?

5.  Do you think birth control options should be dealt with in any other form other than a woman deciding PERSONALLY what she wants to do and how she wants to do it?

6.  How do you feel about the fight about insurance and birth control pills?

Anybody want to discuss this?

An Open Letter to Black Women

 

*BLINK* *BLINK* *BLINK*

Ardyss Body Magic

SIP:  What say YOU?  

New Undies You'll LURVE!

Shelly told me about these so I picked some up:  Gilligan & OMalley® Womens 2 Pk Silicone Hipster - Black

She went on and on and on about how the silicon works so well and they do NOT move.

I wore a pair with some skinny jeans today and yup...she's right!  They were awesome!  They didn't move, they didn't show.

I couldn't keep them on once I got home and put on my lounging clothes cuz I could "feel" them if you know what I mean...but they will straight up be my undie of choice to wear with skinny jeans.

 

Hmmmmm...

I just looked in my FB inbox and found at least 4 emails about women saying their mother was in constant competition with them.

Then...someone shared with me that their mother always attempted to live vicariously through their life.

Are YOU familiar with stuff like this either in your life or in a friend's life?

Dear non-Mothers:

Are you considering being a mother?  Either your own or via adoption?  Anybody comfortable with the thought of NOT being a mother? 

Question...

About how much would you say your purse weighs?

UByKotex

Can we talk about this?  Why was it necessary?  Have you ever had one of these in your hand and thought to yourself...hey...this would be soooooooo much better if it was in a hot, neon color?

UByKotex

Dear Women:

How do YOU feel about there being a House committee put together to discuss birth control for women and yet...NO WOMEN WERE CALLED AS WITNESSES?

Absence of women at birth-control hearing prompts larger question

Dear Women:

Have you ever used a form of birth control?

Dear Women:

Do you have any men you talk to on a regular basis like a good friend or a relative?

Does their logic ever make you wonder if something is wrong witih them?

Like...they tell you some crazy ish like they broke up with their girlfriend and then had sans ropas with her and now they don't know why their EX-girlfriend is tripping thinking they are going to get back together just because they had sans ropas together?

DOES THAT KIND OF LOGIC MAKE YOU WANT TO RIP THEIR EARS OFF??????????????????????????????????????????????

PLEASE tell me that when you hear something like this you set them straight!  PLEASE!

Is this happening to you?

Women more prone to insomnia

Pregnancy Busted

I learned a new thing the other day talking to Erica B. about that pregnancy show where the grandmothers started rumbling.

I was like...the poor young lady just looked so bad and I felt sorry for her.  Erica B. said that the girl was just pregnancy busted. 

Me:  Aaaaaarrrrooooooooooooo?????

And she went on to explain that some people just get so swole all over that they just look a mess. 

Hmmmmm...

What about you?  Were you pregnancy busted?  Have you ever heard that term?  How long did it take before you started looking like yourself again?

Tell the truth and shame the devil!

When you go to get your annual female checkup.  Do you...um...erra...neaten things up 'round yonder as well as shave your legs fresh?

Question...

Did you wear a dress or skirt anyday this week?

Questions...

What are the things that annoy you about being a woman?

Sans Ropas After Baby

What say you regarding?   15 Things No One Told You About Sex After Baby

Matchy Matchy!

Are YOU matching today?

Labor Pains

How long were YOU in labor?

Shapewear Miniskirt with Panty

Anybody own one of these?  I'm thinking Imma go buy one.  I can't do shapewear that goes over my navel cuz I feel like I'm suffocating and I love that this will make it so that the wind won't blow the dress between my legs up to high and leave nothing to the imagination.

SIP:  THIS CHICK JUST KEEPS GETTING WEIRDER-ER!

From BJ: Too Much?

 

Black Vagina Wears Afro, Mexican Vagina Says ‘Ay-Yi-Yi’ in Douche Ad

Question...

When you were pregnant...did you ever rock a bathing suit?  What kind did YOU opt for?